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Babysitting

Someone I respect immensely entrusted me with the responsibility of taking care of their baby for a few hours and even invited me to their home (as a necessary consequence of the first thing). Someone's home and someone's offspring. Shelter. Children. The most precious things. (Well, there's your partner and health and all that too...but let's focus here). Anyway, it was sort of overwhelming at first because I wasn't used to seeing that sort of family interaction and being invited over to someone's home is such a huge thing for me... but here I am, a day after the event and I'm just SO ELATED. Just the closeness with this young baby, this budding family and even several hours watching DVDs (look, I know my parents will tell you I was glued to the TV as a child... and as an adult, when I have time...)... I don't know, the whole thing has just made me so HAPPY.

I just hope my awkwardness didn't scare them from asking me again, coz it was super fun... no, seriously, when I got home I was ecstatic and bounced around for an hour or so before going to bed. Anyway, I'm a fast learner, so I'll get over the awkwardness pretty soon. WOW!!! I'm just so surprised!

I was also thinking that to meet people's other halves (partner, spouse, etc) is pretty significant. I mean, it reflects the way they see the world, doesn't it? Or if you think you sort of know the way they see the world, their partner should be expected to encapsulate some level of perfection (in their regime of thought) since they have chosen to spend their time with them? So if you were to meet the spouse of someone who has very high standards, then would you not be curious, yet intimidated to meet this amazing person? Just wondering.

And you know how when you meet someone you just *know* whether you're captivated or not? How does this come about? Some things I find attractive (recently) has just come from nowhere.

I just find the things that people keep very close and very distant to themselves very interesting because they represent who they are. Isn't this fascinating? Aren't you astounded in wonderment? I AM!!!

Cynicism - it really annoys me sometmes. I refuse to let it bring me down.

P.S. Cindy brought in her baby today. :)
P.P.S. I can't say I'm surprised I'm crazy about babies. Not at the rate I'd been obsessing about them since forever. :P


August 29, 2007 | 4:08 AM Comments  3 comments

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Rerenga Rerenga
September 10, 2007 | 8:25 PM
POP!
Oooooh, the 'what does that tell you about a person' buzz! Reminded me of the thoughts I came up with on what another person's spouse reveals. Don't mind me, I'll just waffle on! o/

I sometimes think other people's spouses seem to either represent what their partner is 'lacking' or that something about them enhances their partners about themselves.
I don't know if I explained that clearly, but for example, say Mary is a big shot lawyer control-freak. Her partner is Trent the surfer with a laid-back attitude (yes, extremes and cliché a bit but meh.), what would that tell you about Mary?
What would that tell you about Trent?

Would it mean that for Mary to feel some sort of balance in her life, she needs to feel she is getting that by being with someone who - in her opinion - represents that? Same goes with Trent too?
Or does it reveal some sort of insecurity about her and that for her to feel valued she needs to be with someone whom she thinks is less successful than she is? For Trent it could possibly be that he sense this insecurity about Mary and his 'help her' instinct kicks in...or maybe he thinks that Mary is a goddess for who he is lucky to be with...
And then those scenarios would depend on how well (or not) the relationship is going and how compatible their pairing is...but all those reasoning's could be applicable right?

In saying that though, I'm now thinking of all sorts of different reasoning behind people and their spouses...

Allow me to self-question myself here: What do I find attracting? Beyond the 'good-looking' thing, what is it about a person that attracts me to that person?

...*thinks*

Hmmm. It's different...for all of them. It can be their attitude, the way they see life, their philosophies, the things they stand for, how well they know themselves (or seem to know themselves), why they do what they do, what motivates them...
Actually, it's a mixture of a number of those factors.

But then what's the deciding factor I wonder?

Say what makes it from like to love/want/need?

Eugh, I'm going off on tangents and into numerous scenarios now. Must. Stop. XD

- M
cherrie Cherrie
September 12, 2007 | 4:14 PM

I'm almost certain that the deciding factor(s) is/are different for everyone, just as different things excite different people.

I think for me, it would have to be that the person augments my sense of wonder.

Nevertheless, I do think that the person one chooses to spend most of their time with (or rest of their life) must personify the values that one holds in high esteem. Why else would you stick around?
Rerenga Rerenga
September 12, 2007 | 7:30 PM

Hmm, yeah I know what you mean. But then I think about those people who have abusive spouses and can't help but wonder the same question, why would they stick around? Surely it can't be because their spouse personifies values they hold in high esteem?
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